--- title: "What to do when you cannot check in on a parent" description: "Holidays, hospital stays, shift work or simply a busy week — how to keep a parent supported when you are not available to call." lang: en-GB json-ld: | [ { "@context": "https://schema.org", "@graph": [ { "@type": "Organization", "@id": "https://youcarereminders.co.uk/#organization", "name": "You Care Reminders", "url": "https://youcarereminders.co.uk", "email": "hello@youcarereminders.co.uk", "areaServed": "GB" }, { "@type": "WebSite", "@id": "https://youcarereminders.co.uk/#website", "name": "You Care Reminders", "url": "https://youcarereminders.co.uk", "publisher": { "@id": "https://youcarereminders.co.uk/#organization" }, "inLanguage": "en-GB" } ] }, { "@context": "https://schema.org", "@type": "FAQPage", "mainEntity": [ { "@type": "Question", "name": "How do I arrange short-term cover?", "acceptedAnswer": { "@type": "Answer", "text": "Start with the council's adult social care team, and get quotes from two local agencies. Book earlier than feels necessary." } }, { "@type": "Question", "name": "Is it selfish to take a holiday?", "acceptedAnswer": { "@type": "Answer", "text": "No. Carers who never break are the ones who stop being able to care at all. Plan cover and go." } }, { "@type": "Question", "name": "Will reminders keep running while I am away?", "acceptedAnswer": { "@type": "Answer", "text": "Yes. Once set, they continue on schedule with no action needed from you." } }, { "@type": "Question", "name": "Is this a monitoring service?", "acceptedAnswer": { "@type": "Answer", "text": "No. We send reminders and show you when they were confirmed. 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[Begin caring today for free](/signup)[How it works](/features) ## Decide what must not lapse Usually there are only two or three things: eating and drinking, a human voice each day, and someone noticing if something is wrong. Everything else can pause for a fortnight. Write those down and cover them specifically rather than trying to replicate everything you normally do. ## Line up a second pair of hands - A neighbour with a key, your number, and a clear ask — not just goodwill. - A friend or relative taking the daily call while you are away. - A short block of paid care if the fortnight is genuinely uncovered. - Where relevant, respite care arranged well in advance rather than at the last minute. ## Keep the rhythm running Scheduled reminders keep going whether or not you are able to. The routine does not collapse just because you are on a plane, and picking it back up afterwards is much simpler than rebuilding it. If you add a second family member to the account, they can see whether reminders were confirmed while you are away. ## Set the escalation rule before you go Agree in advance who calls the GP, at what point, and who has the front door key. An escalation plan written on a Sunday afternoon is worth ten frantic phone calls on a Thursday night. ## The wider picture 3.9 million people aged 65 and over in the UK live alone, around a third of that age group. Source: [Office for National Statistics](https://www.ons.gov.uk/peoplepopulationandcommunity/birthsdeathsandmarriages/families/datasets/familiesandhouseholdsfamiliesandhouseholds) 5.0 million people in England and Wales provide unpaid care, according to the 2021 Census. Source: [Office for National Statistics, Census 2021](https://www.ons.gov.uk/peoplepopulationandcommunity/healthandsocialcare/healthandwellbeing/bulletins/unpaidcareenglandandwales/census2021) ## Being straight with you You Care Reminders is a non-medical wellness tool, not a monitoring service and not an alarm. Delivery is best effort rather than guaranteed, and it must not be used for medication reminders. If you are worried about someone's health, speak to their GP; in an emergency, call 999. ## Questions carers ask ### How do I arrange short-term cover? ### Is it selfish to take a holiday? ### Will reminders keep running while I am away? ### Is this a monitoring service? ## Read next - [Caring from a distance](/caring-from-a-distance) - [Respite care in the UK](/respite-care-uk) - [Safety check-in service](/safety-check-in-service) - [Sharing care between siblings](/sharing-care-between-siblings) ## Set the first reminder tonight It takes about five minutes, costs nothing to start, and the person you care for has nothing to install. [Begin caring today for free](/signup)[See plans](/pricing) You Care Reminders Thoughtful reminders that help families stay quietly connected to the people they love. Wellness support, not medical advice. 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