--- title: "Caring for elderly parents: where to start in the UK" description: "A plain UK guide for anyone starting to care for an ageing parent: the first practical steps, what help exists, and how to keep your own life standing." lang: en-GB json-ld: | [ { "@context": "https://schema.org", "@graph": [ { "@type": "Organization", "@id": "https://youcarereminders.co.uk/#organization", "name": "You Care Reminders", "url": "https://youcarereminders.co.uk", "email": "hello@youcarereminders.co.uk", "areaServed": "GB" }, { "@type": "WebSite", "@id": "https://youcarereminders.co.uk/#website", "name": "You Care Reminders", "url": "https://youcarereminders.co.uk", "publisher": { "@id": "https://youcarereminders.co.uk/#organization" }, "inLanguage": "en-GB" } ] }, { "@context": "https://schema.org", "@type": "FAQPage", "mainEntity": [ { "@type": "Question", "name": "Where do I start if I have no idea?", "acceptedAnswer": { "@type": "Answer", "text": "Call the council's adult social care team and ask for an assessment. It costs nothing and it is the gateway to nearly everything else." } }, { "@type": "Question", "name": "Do I have to pay for care?", "acceptedAnswer": { "@type": "Answer", "text": "It depends on savings and needs. The assessment establishes what is available and what is chargeable in your area." } }, { "@type": "Question", "name": "Am I allowed to say no to something?", "acceptedAnswer": { "@type": "Answer", "text": "Yes. Being honest about what you cannot do is far more sustainable than agreeing to everything and quietly failing." } }, { "@type": "Question", "name": "What is the cheapest useful step?", "acceptedAnswer": { "@type": "Answer", "text": "Getting the everyday prompts out of your own head. It is a small change with an outsized effect on the mental load." } } ] }, { "@context": "https://schema.org", "@type": "BreadcrumbList", "itemListElement": [ { "@type": "ListItem", "position": 1, "name": "Home", "item": "https://youcarereminders.co.uk/" }, { "@type": "ListItem", "position": 2, "name": "Caring for elderly parents", "item": "https://youcarereminders.co.uk/caring-for-elderly-parents" } ] } ] --- [You Care Reminders Caregiver Support ](/) [Home](/)[How it works](/features)[Pricing](/pricing)[FAQ](/faq)[Contact](/contact) [Sign in](/login)[Get started](/signup) 1. [Home](/) 2. Caring for elderly parents Caring for parents # Caring for elderly parents Nobody decides to become a carer. It accumulates — a bit of shopping, then the appointments, then the worrying. This is the orientation nobody hands you at the start. [Begin caring today for free](/signup)[How it works](/features) ## The first four things worth doing - Ask the council for a needs assessment for your parent, and a carer's assessment for yourself. Both are free. - Ask the GP surgery to record you as a named contact. - Sort lasting power of attorney for health and for finances while capacity is clear. - Check Attendance Allowance eligibility — it is not means tested and is widely unclaimed. ## Work out what kind of help is actually needed Care needs fall into rough groups: practical (shopping, cleaning, transport), personal (washing, dressing), social (company, purpose), and prompting (remembering what happens when). Families often reach for personal care when what is really missing is prompting and company. Naming the category makes the choice of help obvious, and usually cheaper. ## Keep your own life in the picture The pattern is always the same: your own plans go first, then your health, then you wonder why you have nothing left. Deciding early what you will not give up is not selfish, it is how people last. Get a second person involved from the beginning, even if their contribution is small. Solo caring is much harder to unwind later. ## Where we fit You Care Reminders handles the everyday prompting: drinks, meals, walks, appointments and calls, delivered as a phone call, a text, or an alert on their phone, with one button to confirm. No app for them to install, and never anything to do with medication. ## The wider picture 5.0 million people in England and Wales provide unpaid care, according to the 2021 Census. Source: [Office for National Statistics, Census 2021](https://www.ons.gov.uk/peoplepopulationandcommunity/healthandsocialcare/healthandwellbeing/bulletins/unpaidcareenglandandwales/census2021) a legal right every unpaid carer in England can ask their council for a carer's assessment, whatever their income or savings. Source: [NHS](https://www.nhs.uk/social-care-and-support/support-and-benefits-for-carers/carer-assessments/) ## Being straight with you You Care Reminders is a non-medical wellness tool, not a monitoring service and not an alarm. Delivery is best effort rather than guaranteed, and it must not be used for medication reminders. If you are worried about someone's health, speak to their GP; in an emergency, call 999. ## Questions carers ask ### Where do I start if I have no idea? ### Do I have to pay for care? ### Am I allowed to say no to something? ### What is the cheapest useful step? ## Read next - [Elderly care at home options](/elderly-care-at-home-options) - [Carer's assessment](/carers-assessment) - [Respite care in the UK](/respite-care-uk) - [Companionship for older parents](/companionship-for-older-parents) - [Carer burnout](/carer-burnout-early-signs) - [Telecare explained](/telecare-explained) ## Set the first reminder tonight It takes about five minutes, costs nothing to start, and the person you care for has nothing to install. [Begin caring today for free](/signup)[See plans](/pricing) You Care Reminders Thoughtful reminders that help families stay quietly connected to the people they love. Wellness support, not medical advice. 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